Saturday, 30 August 2014

Lifestyle // The One Question I Hate Being Asked.


We all have those questions that we hate being asked. Whether it's "what do you want to be when you're older"? to "why are you always on your laptop"? my most hated question would without a doubt be, how have you never had a boyfriend? some of you are most probably thinking that there isn't really anything wrong with this question; which yes is quite true, but without exaggerating hands down I can tell you I've been asked this question on every occasion I find myself talking about love and relationships with people. 

Honestly, I've had this question go round and round my head for so long now. Not to be big-headed or anything but I think I'm a pretty decent human being. Not in look wise because I understand I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I see myself as the type of girlfriend to enjoy cuddling up on the sofa with someone watching the same film we've watched over 50 times, and still managing to tear up at all the sad bits and having those 2am chats about life and our hopes and dreams for the future. I don't know why I've never had a boyfriend and I don't know why the most affection I've ever gotten is from a dreamy guy who looked a lot like Ryan Gosling, I giggled as we danced along to a few songs out one night and as we swayed from left to right to one of the many slow songs, he looked into my eyes with his perfect green eyes as every sound and person around me started to fade as if it were just me and him alone, at this point his face was pulling in closer and my eyes began to close and my lips began to get ready for this romantic film like moment, in which then I realised his lips had gone past mine and um, he'd given me the wettest kiss on my ear. Life, ay.

In my very early teen years when I'd barely even hit puberty, I thought that something was wrong with me. All my friends were in relationships and meeting that guy they'd spent weeks speaking to on Bebo. While I, on the other hand, struggled to think why I was doing the typical pre-teen things. Fast forward to me now aged 19, I find myself wondering how that couple sitting opposite me who barely look like they've hit puberty are on a date but I'm still questioning my relationship status, exactly like I did as a pre-teen. The moral of this post I guess is that I don't know why I've never been in a relationship or even been asked out on a date, but frankly I'm learning that I don't really care. I'm so glad that I didn't pressure myself into rushing into a relationship or doing something I'd live to regret now with a guy that I wouldn't have even known all too well. So to next person that ask's me why I've never had a boyfriend, as much as I know you don't mean any harm, I honestly couldn't tell you why and I'm fine with that. I'd rather be asked this question repeatedly 
than pressure myself to do things, not to be asked this again. 


4 comments:

  1. I love this post and I love your honesty and how down to earth you are! everyone does everything at different times there are no set rules etc, it's just when what happens happens! xxxx

    Blonde of carbs

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    1. Thank you Jessica! :) I just had to get this off my chest and am so glad I did. Definitely agree, people should never feel pressured by anything.

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  2. The dreaded question! This is the most frustrating question ever and I'm so glad someone else mentioned it! It's frustrating when it's people/friends/family you haven't seen in a while and they mention your love life as if you are some tragic Bridget Jones character when in actual fact you're fine with it. Trust me Vanese, I had a quarter-life crisis in March and tried online dating when I thought there was something wrong with me for not having a boyfriend... I went on one date and it was ok but I realised relationships are so much better when they aren't forced. I now know that if you stop looking for it, it'll come to you! This post put me in such a happy mood & I agree 100% about not pressuring yourself into anything. xxx

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    1. So glad you agree as well Tiffany, there is way too much pressure on people to be in relationships and it can often leave you feeling as if there's something wrong with you. I couldn't agree with you more, once you stop looking for it, it'll come to you. You've made me feel so happy too, I guess I often think I am alone in most situations, when in fact I am just one of the hundreds of people who feel like this all the time.

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